Condescending remarks are statements or actions that imply the speaker is superior to the listener and are intended to put them down or make them feel inferior. It can manifest as “talking down,” insults, belittling comments, or even backhanded compliments.

Condescension can damage relationships and impact mental health. Her’s what it can look like:  Making statements that directly criticize or put someone down. Sarcasm or “jokes” disguised as humor. Using sarcasm or humor to subtly criticize or demean. Backhanded compliments. Giving compliments that are intended to be insulting or make someone feel bad.

Interrupting or mansplaining. Interrupting someone or explaining something to them as if they don’t know anything (especially when directed towards a female). “Over-helping” or lecturing. Offering unsolicited advice or overstepping boundaries by acting like an authority figure.

Condescension can strain relationships by creating a power dynamic and making people feel unheard or invalid. Being subjected to condescending remarks can lower self-esteem and negatively affect one’s mental well-being. If it is in the work environment, it can create a work environment where people are not treated with respect. It usually trickles down.

Sometimes we do not think that we are being condescending.  We think that we are doing the other person a favor. Constantly correcting the listener, even if it’s about minor details, can be perceived as condescending and disrespectful. So are non-verbal cues, such as eye-rolling or a condescending smile, can also contribute to the overall impression of condescension.

The experts will tell you to establish clear boundaries and assert yourself by stating that you do not appreciate being spoken to in that manner. However, we know that many times this comes from people who have authority over us and we have only two choices. Try to avoid them or grin and bear it.

When we encounter people who know nothing about our faith we might respond with ridicule or even judgement. Such as praying before a meal. But the Apostle Peter challenged us, “Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have” 1 Peter 3:15.

Then he warned, “Do this with gentleness and respect”.  In Colossians 4:6, Paul explained the power of such a response, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Just as salt on our food enhances flavor, salty answers invite others to come closer to faith.