Learning to trust people involves a lot of dynamics, including being trustworthy, communicating clearly, and giving people a chance to prove themselves.  I am not ashamed to admit that I have had trust issues almost my entire life. It still takes a lot of effort. I must admit that they are almost all female.  

I have grown a lot in the past fifty years. I grew up around people who did not give an ounce to being trustworthy. A few said that your word should be your bond, they did not live it. It was meant for others.

Children, I do not believe are born with trust issues. One might say, how can they. They are born totally dependent on someone. They cannot be picky. The problem is that they are not going to be babies forever. Experts say when they are about eighteen months when it kicks in.

In the Bible, Jesus said, “unless you become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew18:3). This verse appears in a passage where Jesus is answering a question from His disciples about who is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

Why trust issues are harmful? Trust has a number of benefits that are important for the health of your relationship as well as your own emotional well-being. Trust allows you to be vulnerable, be yourself, feel safe and secure, focus on positivity, increase closeness and intimacy, and minimize conflict.

“Trust but verify” is a phrase that means to be cautious and confirm information before accepting it. It originated from a Russian proverb, and was popularized by U S President Ronald Reagan during the Cold War.

“God helps those who help themselves” is nowhere in scripture. That might be a prerequisite for getting assistance from man/woman. Instead, God’s word teaches us to depend on Him for our daily needs. Jesus tells us, “Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?