The word season is defined as a time characterized by a particular circumstance or feature. A suitable or natural time or occasion. An indefinite period of time. A period of the year characterized by or associated with a particular activity or phenomenon. We think of a whole divided by four.

Dr. Paul F. Schmidt, a psychologist life coach, talks about The Four Seasons of Love Before Marriage. “A problem in most relationships is that the partners are in two different seasons of readiness for love.” That I surmise is why you never see a 50/50 marriage.  That does not mean you are necessarily incompatible.

Ecclesiastes says that there’s a season for everything, and he gives a list of seven pairs of opposing things. Every pair he gives is a positive combined with a negative.

1.There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2.a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3.a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,

4.a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5.a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,

6.a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7.a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak.

This is another analogy using seasons— relationships. All through school you were inseparable, including college. You both got married and for the first few years you communicated weekly. All of a sudden you both stopped and have not heard from each other in fifty years.

Dr. Marc Agronin M. D., a geriatric psychiatrist, says take the initiative. It is important for one party to step up first. Let it be you. “Especially if there has been a breach of years.” Say you miss them and that it is important.

On the other hand, he says that if you reach out and you do not hear from the other person do not badger. “Some people don’t want to reconnect.”